|Bridezilla? Should I still attend??
||[Nov. 25th, 2006|05:18 pm]
Wedding Planning Troubles
A casual friend of mine is getting married, and I was invited to be a bridesmaid in the ceremony. A month or so later, we got into a large disagreement, and mutually agreed that it would be best if I just attended the wedding, rather than being in it, (the disagreement was unrelated to the wedding itself).|
Over the next few months, I never saw my 'friend', even though we lived in the same apartment complex, less than 20 yards away. I didn't get a phone call or a 'hi, how are you?', nothing, and during that time, some significant changes happened in my life, including almost losing someone very dear to me. Throughout these few months, I never heard a word from said friend, so when the wedding invitation came in the mail, I asked my husband if he thought we should attend. He says he doesn't wish to attend as he feels we are more like strangers at this point, and I would agree. Even though I know (from planning my own wedding) that it's a huge ordeal and very stressful and a very busy time, I am insulted that I have not received a call or note or anything in three months.
My question is, is it inappropriate for me to respectfully decline the invitation? I wouldn't attend the wedding of a total stranger, and I would very much not feel comfortable attending, however, this 'friend' tends to be hot-tempered and I know she will not understand why we're not coming, and will take it as a personal insult, even though that is not how it is meant..
I don't feel, after all that's happened, that I would want to rekindle the friendship, so I don't see the point in attending. I am also very hurt that I was so disposable a person that she could go months without a word to me, and then expect me to celebrate with her. Help :(